Wednesday, 14 December 2011

My thoughts on Success.

When I was still a kid (up until I was around 13) I thought that to be a success I would need to get straight A's in school, go to University to get a degree in medicine, become a brain surgeon, own a big fancy house, and send my children to elite private schools. I think this was mostly because my Mothers side of the family were all quite well off and successful in their respected career choices, whereas my Fathers side of the family (whom I love very much) were very hard-working labourers/farmers who often struggled to make ends meet simply because they didn't have some fancy piece of paper. I guess I just wanted to make my Fathers side of the family proud, and to live up to the unspoken expectations that I felt my Mothers side would have of me. 

But then as I became a teenager (and after my parents divorced during my first year of high school) I started to view success in terms of family, relationships, love and happiness. Wealth also became an important aspect for me. I wanted to be able to give my children the safest and most supportive future possible, both emotionally and financially. I didn't want my children to have to worry about things such as whether or not the lease on their house would be renewed, or whether they could afford to pay their 'share' of the rent and food that week. More importantly though, I became very adamant that divorce was just not going to be an option for me and that I would need to be very careful when choosing my life partner/the father of my future children (I clearly forgot about this when I was wasting time with some of the losers I used to date). Some people believe that we can't help who we fall in love with, but I disagree. I believe that we choose to love people and that that is why most of us seem to find it so easy to "fall in love" with the first person who claims to love us back.


I suppose that, when I really think about it, I still hold these same views now that I'm an adult. If anything I've simply elaborated on them. For example, I still believe that I need to choose wisely when it comes to picking my life partner (and I believe that I have) but I also believe that it is equally important for me to make sure that I am both emotionally and financially strong and capable enough to support myself and my future children in the event that something terrible ever happened to my partner. Besides, if there's one thing that I can't stand it's watching people who have the ability and the potential to actually go somewhere in life choosing to settle down with the first person to offer them a free ride. But hey, it's not up to me to judge. 

1 comment:

  1. It sounds like you have a great head on your shoulders to be so young. You were definately raised well! As far as choosing your life partner, marry your best friend:) I did, almost 19 years ago!

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