Monday, 20 February 2012

Change.

First things first - I am not in a position for change right now. So why, Mr Universe, do I suddenly feel ready for engagement and babies and all things related?

Assuming that B will one day want to marry me, we'd have to wait at least 5 more years in order for that to happen. As for getting engaged, it doesn't matter that we've already been together for 3 years or that I would actually enjoy having a long engagement, because B just isn't ready for that yet.. and I totally respect that. Also, up until now, neither of us have ever been overly eager to start a family too early (not that starting a family at our age would be considered early nowadays). We just automatically agreed that we would wait until we were married to start having babies. In fact I have actually been quite scared of raising a baby, and have been avoiding having one for as long as I can remember. 

So seriously.. WHY? All I can seem to think about lately is what our future family would be like. From the house we would live in, to the hours we would work, to the meals that we would prepare, to pets that we would let sleep on our beds, to the genders/ages/names/appearances of our children.. it's getting beyond ridiculous! What good is dreaming about these things now when I know that we have to wait at least 3-5+ years for any of this to ever happen? :(


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My question to all of you guys is how do you know when you're ready for change? Is it the result of finishing something and then moving on to something else? Or is it more a feeling that you get, like a random hint from the universe?

14 comments:

  1. Tick, tick, tick, tick, tick, tick... that's the sound of your biological clock that you're hearing! Your body/mind/soul is telling you that you want to get on with having a family and children. I don't suppose you need to get on that tomorrow, but don't be surprised if this "tick tick tick" gets louder over the next few years! It's a perfectly normal thing that happens to most women around our age. ;)

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    1. Guess I'll just be all the more overjoyed when all of these things finally start happening then! :)

      - Felicity. x

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  2. I didn't really have the chance to know if I was "ready" per se, it just happened, and I wouldn't change it for the world! So, I believe when it happens, you'll be ready:) Don't worry so much! Plus, thinking about all that stuff is fun (I think so anyway), lol.
    BTW, I found your blog and am a new follower:) Follow back if you'd like.
    http://www.rockpaperscissorscreate.blogspot.com

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    1. Thanks for the advice love!

      - Felicity. x

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  3. You know. I feel the same way towards children at the moment. I am SO ready to be a mother but yet things like money keep getting in the way. I guess you are ready for change once you have fully settled down and feel comfortable with who you are with.

    I have been with Andrew for 4 years now, we have been through a lot, we are engaged and we are at a happy stage in our lives. We both feel comfortable and relaxed and that makes a difference.

    You most likely feel the way you do because you are so happy and comfortable with Ben that you are ready for a new change and new adventure with him. :)

    xx

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    1. That last thing you said makes absolute perfect sense. Moving in together was our last big adventure, but now that we are comfortable and settled down I feel like I need that next adventure.

      So glad that you and Andrew are happy and ready to take that next step! Can't wait to see little Stephanie's and Andrew's running around the place. :P

      - Felicity. x

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  4. Hi Felicity!

    Thank you so very much for participating in the blog hop! Wishing you much success in your bloggy endeavors. New follower :)

    Kelly
    www.livelaughrowe.com

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    1. Naww, thanks Kelly! Wishing you all the best as well!

      - Felicity. x

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  5. Ha! Sometimes I feel that way, and there's nothing wrong with that. If you WANT it, it doesn't mean it has to be NOW. I know I want it, but like you, we have "a plan." It's neither right nor wrong. It just is! Do what works for both of you! But it's exciting to think about, isn't it?!

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    1. Yes, very exciting to think about! Nice to know I'm not the only one in this position. Makes me feel normal. :)

      Thanks for stopping by!

      - Felicity. x

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  6. I love how honest this post is! My relationship is similar--I'm ready for all of it (in my mind, not in reality) but my boyfriend just isn't. Its hard when its on your mind so much but then again I think its good because then you have time to think the situation through without rushing yourself.
    http://prttylttlthngs.blogspot.com/

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    1. Good point. I may just be ready for it in my mind, but not in reality. Realistically I suppose it makes sense to wait until we have the time and money to throw an engagement party before we get engaged, otherwise we might have to miss out on all of that.

      Thanks for the advice love!

      - Felicity. x

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  7. I guess you just know hun?

    My boyfriend is exactly the same as Ben. We've been together nearly 3 years but he hasn't even thought about our future. I guess uni & other life commitments just get in the way sometimes but that isn't always a bad thing. I totally respect him for furthering his career, but it doesn't stop you from planning or visualising your future. :) xx

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    1. Hey hun,

      Thanks for stopping by!

      So glad I'm not the only girl in this boat. I guess this is the price we pay for loving such academically determined individuals huh? :P

      - Felicity. x

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