Wednesday, 9 May 2012

Share your heart.


This Mother's Day, I'm working with Clever Girls in support of Macy's Heart of Haiti to shine a light on the "trade, not aid" program, which provides sustainable income to Haitian artisans struggling to rebuild their lives and support their families after the 2010 earthquake. 

To show my support I have been asked to share a heartfelt story about my beautiful Mother. At first I was going to share a funny childhood memory but instead I've decided to share a much more personal, and inspirational story.


Mum and I at my Tafe Graduation.

The photo above was taken in December of 2008, just two weeks before Christmas, and three weeks before B asked me to be his girlfriend. I had just graduated Tafe, had a decent part-time job, and had recently been offered a place at my local University to study Teaching. Everything seemed to be falling into place and my Mum couldn't have been any more proud of me. Little did I know that behind her happy smile was a woman who was scared to death.

It wasn't until early January, 2009 that my Mum told me she had an appointment at the hospital regarding a lump that had been found in her left breast. My immediate response was "is it cancer?" to which she replied "that's what I'm about to find out". She told me that she had been aware of the lump for over a month but didn't want to worry my brother and I over Christmas. I mean seriously, how selfless can one person be?


I can barely recall what happened during those next few weeks. All I can remember was thinking that she would be okay and that the lump would be benign. Well, it turned out that I was wrong. By the beginning of February Mum was undergoing a full mastectomy of her left breast. It all happened so suddenly. One day she was her usual happy self, the next she was missing a big part of what made her a woman. :(


The next few months consisted of round after round of chemo and radiation, trying on wigs and mastectomy bra's, losing her new found and long deserved teacher aide position at a local school, struggling to pay the rent or engage in normal day to day activities.. and the list only grew bigger. What saddens me the most is that I allowed myself to become yet another one of her stresses. Sure, I was stressed out too (I suddenly felt an enormous pressure to get my license and buy a car so that I could drive Mum around to her appointments, my portion of the rent and board had significantly increased so I needed to find more hours at work etc.) but at the end of the day my Mum needed me more than ever, and instead I felt resentful. 


All I wanted to do was spend time with my new boyfriend (even though B encouraged me to spend as much time with my Mum as possible), work less, spend more, and concentrate on my new life at Uni. Things at home had become really tense and Mum and I started to fight on an almost daily basis. By June, 2009 I had decided to move out of home. I ended up moving 15 minutes away into an on campus apartment and I spent less on rent/food/utilities there than what I had been spending at home. Funnily enough, my Mum wasn't mad at me for leaving. In fact our relationship improved dramatically. I would come back home to visit her 2-3 times a week, willingly help out around the house, enjoy our conversations together, and miss her company when I was gone.


Mum and I at a John Farnham concert in September, 2009.

By December of that year the house she was renting had been sold so she and my brother were going to move into a new house around the corner from my Uni. When I asked if I could move with them I would have fully understood if they told me to get lost, yet I was welcomed back with warm arms. I was only back home for just over a year before I eventually moved to the coast with B, and despite all the trouble I was causing, Mum was, and still is, my biggest supporter. :)

Thank you to Macy's Heart of Haiti for sponsoring my participation in this “Share Your Heart" promotion. I was selected for this sponsorship by the Clever Girls Collective. All opinions expressed here are my own.

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What is Macy’s Heart of Haiti?
Heart of Haiti is a “Trade, Not Aid” initiative launched by artist and social entrepreneur, Willa Shalit, The Clinton Bush Haiti Fund and Macy’s. Already, Heart of Haiti has led to employment of 750 artists in Haiti, providing financial benefits for an estimated 8,500 people in the country.


Each item is a one-of-a-kind design and handmade by a Haitian master artisan from raw materials such as recycled oil drums, wrought iron, papier-mâché and stone. The collection features more than
40 home decor items including quilts, metalwork, ceramics, jewelry and paintings and is made almost entirely from recycled and sustainable items such as old cement bags, cardboard, oil drums and local gommier wood.


Heart of Haiti products are available online at Macy’s.com.

11 comments:

  1. Sweet story :) Mothers are definitely some of the most selfless people we'll ever meet.

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  2. Wow, what a lovely story, your Mum sounds amazing! It must have been a really tough time though, but it's really nice that you made it through :)

    I also had a really burnt toungue thanks to Butterbeer Latte! Haha :P
    I did get a job... at macca's. But I knocked it back because i'm going to be crazy busy with school! I decided to go back to Nursing again so I start on campus at tafe in June!
    I'm glad Ben's doing okay! Sounds like he's got a great attitude :)
    The phone sounds amazing, wish the iPhone's came with that glass!
    We definitely should meet up sometime, go op shopping or something! I'm fairly busy this week but any time after that is all good, whenever your'e available :)

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  3. Your Mom sounds so sweet!

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  4. Hi Felicity ~ Thanks for following me on my blog Pearl 13.1 You made my day. You have a good heart Felicity and I am sure God is proud of you for doing all you could for your mother. My Grandmother had a mastectomy as well and I remember my Mom helping her out all the time. Love Is A Great Virtue and I see it in you.

    Sincerely,
    Michele

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    1. Thanks Michele, that means a lot. You're a very sweet person for saying that. :)

      xx

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  5. Thanks so much on behalf of Heart of Haiti fo posting! We so appreciate you sharing us with your readers. Your Mom sounds like a very sweet and strong lady, I'm terrified at the idea of my mother being ill, I can't imagine how hard that time was for you. I hope she is in good health now and that you two enjoy a wonderful Mother's Day together! Thanks again for sharing your story.

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