Don't worry, I'm not asking this question in the context of my own relationship, but in the context of our current society. I was recently reading this post by Mez from Domestic Divinity about the pressure that friends and family constantly seem to put on each other (unknowingly or otherwise) about getting into a relationship, moving out of home, getting engaged, getting married, having kids, having more kids, etc. It seems that as soon as you become a legal adult these days, regardless of whether you even have the maturity of an adult, people expect you to have it altogether and want to you to start reaching these milestones in quick succession.
I often wonder if this is because the generations before us have moulded our expectations. My grandparents for example got engaged after 6 weeks of dating, and my parents got engaged after 6 months of dating. Does this mean that B and I will get engaged after 6 years of dating? (I'm joking obviously!) Seriously though.. could the fact that many of our parents and grandparents got engaged/married so early on in their relationships and then quickly had a busload of children afterwards be the reason that we are all so eager to see each other reaching these particular milestones? I'm guessing this is probably the case, which would explain why it feels like we are being pressured, because in the back of our minds we know that this is how our parents/grandparents did things and on some level we want to follow in their footsteps. I'm not saying this is the case with everyone, but it's something to think about isn't it?
I just wish that as a society we could come to realise that things aren't the same as they were 20, 30, 50 years ago. The same people that we are trying to please/live up to/follow in the footsteps of are the same people that also want us to "do it all" - to go to University, travel the world, get an amazing and well paying career, etc. We're living in a society where young adults are expected to be all things, and all before they turn 35. So why do we keep putting so much pressure on each other? Why do we insist on being our own worst enemies?
When B and I (who have been dating for almost 6 years now, which is an accomplishment in itself thank you!) do eventually become engaged, I would like it if my friends and family could wish us "Congratulations!" rather than "About time guys.." or "Finally! I thought he would never pop the question!". I realise that most people who say these comments are saying them out of love and in a joking manner, but that doesn't necessarily make it okay. I myself have been guilty of this behaviour in the past and I honestly regret it now because I know that soon enough it will be happening to me as well (it's already starting to happen).
This blog post is clearly a generalisation written to make people think, so I apologise if it appears that I'm pigeonholing everyone - I promise that wasn't my intention. I just thought it might be an interesting topic to think about. :)