Sunday, 16 July 2017

It's been a year.

Well, just over a year anyway. Just over a year since I made the biggest decision of my life and ended my long term relationship of almost eight years. It feels like a lifetime ago to me now. So much has changed in the past twelve thirteen months. Some positive, some negative, but mostly positive. More on that in another post though.

Now while I'm not normally one to dwell on the past, I do like to learn from it, and if I can share what I have learned in order to help other people then why the hell not? If I can give even just one person in the same position that I was in this time last year some peace of mind that things will get better, then I feel like writing this post is worth it. I've decided to write this post in a Q & A style, answering the questions that I myself was asking shortly after the break up. I know that the answers other people gave helped me, so hopefully my answers will help someone else too.

Q: Will I ever love again?
A: Yes. Of course. It may not feel like it in the first few months after breaking up, but once you make the leap into this sea of other fish that everyone keeps talking about, you will quickly be swept up in the excitement of a fresh start and being seen with a fresh pair of eyes. Even if you don't fall in love again straight away, by putting yourself out there you will meet people who reawaken your soul and help you to see the beauty inside yourself that you had long forgotten about. You will feel so many emotions that you had forgotten even existed. Pretty soon one of these emotions will be love. And it will be magical.

Q: Will finding a new relationship be difficult?
A: Short answer, yes. You will probably date a bunch of different people, likely in quick succession, trying to find the one who is worth your time. After investing eight years of your life into someone who just wasn't as invested as you, you will undoubtedly become very fickle and not want to settle down unless you find someone who is ultimately worth the risk of potentially losing another huge chunk of your life to. This isn't necessarily a bad thing though. You will learn a lot about yourself very quickly. You will also learn a lot about other people and be immersed in a bunch of different, exciting situations that you never would have been in otherwise. Even once you find someone to settle down with though, things will still be difficult. Issues from your past relationship may rise to the surface, causing insecurities and doubts and unfortunately comparison. It is how you choose to react to these issues that will make things difficult or not. I've found that by simply sitting quietly with these issues to reflect and learn from them, you can turn these into a positive.

Q: What is the hardest thing about starting a new relationship from scratch?
A: The hardest thing I've found with starting a new relationship is breaking old habits. Going from living with someone and being in their pocket everyday to only seeing someone 2-3 times a week has been a real challenge for me. I find myself coming across as clingy because, let's face it, when you're falling in love with someone all you want to do is spend time with them, never mind adding the habit of being with someone everyday to the mix. I've learned to embrace the fresh start though, and now I find our time apart to be just as important as our time together, as it gives us the chance to miss each other as well as focus on our individual goals - giving us something to talk about when we are together again. Something else I've found hard is having to wait for things that you were already used to having. Like a relationship with your partners family. Knowing their childhood secrets. Learning their deepest fears and their biggest goals. These are all things you have to look forward to though, so if you think about it like this it can really only be a positive.

Q: What if things don't work out?
A: Then come back to this post. If there's one thing I've learned it's that there are no guarantees in life. There are only lessons to be made, connections to be formed, and feelings to be felt. If it feels good in the moment and benefits your emotional happiness in the present, this all you can really ask for in life. If things change, react accordingly. Do what feels right for you. It's never too late for a second chance.

I wish you guys all the luck in life in love!

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Thursday, 27 April 2017

I've finally moved out!

Hey guys! Sorry I've been absent. For once I actually have a good excuse though, and that's that I've been busy moving out and settling into my much awaited new place! I ended up moving into a small two bedroom duplex with a lovely lady named Jenny and her toddler who also just happen to be vegan! Talk about a match made in heaven. :)

As this place was originally Jenny's I literally only needed to move in my bedroom items, so I'm still storing a bunch of stuff at Mum's place which I am hugely grateful for. I did manage to squeeze quite a lot into my new bedroom though without too much overcrowding, as you can see from the photo above. How gorgeous is my colour scheme by the way? I am so happy with it. Mostly white with pops of dusty pink, purple and copper/gold. My room has such a cosy vibe, perfect for the winter months we're about to head into.

Aside from the move there isn't much new to share with you guys. I stopped seeing the guy I mentioned in my last post (if you guys can even remember!) and am already moving onto the next potential candidate. Haha! ;) My heart is far too big to stay single for long. I just have too much to give.

I'm also looking into my next move career and hobby wise. Pretty Little Liars is wrapping up soon, so I'll need a new hobby to keep my brain ticking. Any ideas? As for my career, any job that brings in the money without me having to bring my work home with me is a great place to start. I'm honestly not that fussy. I'm much more focused on enjoying life than having some fancy career to look back on when I'm dead.

So what's new with you guys? Does anybody even read these posts anymore?

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Sunday, 11 December 2016

Snap Happy Sunday // Brisbane Vegan Markets.

One of the best things about being back in Brisbane is all of the awesome vegan events that keep popping up all over the place. So far I've been to a Sea Shepherd event at Southbank, Eco Fest on the Gold Coast, and then today I went to the Brisbane Vegan Markets in West End. Whilst the markets weren't as exciting as the first two events (Eco Fest was by far my fave! I had such a great day) the food options were beyond amazing. From mac and cheese, to "chicken" drumsticks, to custard tarts, there was something there for everyone. Sometimes I wish I had a second stomach just for these events - I always leave disappointed that I couldn't try everything.

Icecream made with liquid nitrogen

Vegan "chicken" drumsticks and nuggets
As much as I wish I had my Townsville vegan tribe here to enjoy these events with me, I am lucky enough to have found myself some lovely new vego babes to share in all the awesomeness. Brooke (pictured below) couldn't get over the fact that we weren't actually eating real chicken. It's pretty incredible how closely we can imitate real meat these days.

The rest of the markets, food aside, were pretty good as well. I wish they'd had a few more stalls though. I really wanted to buy one of the dainty pendant necklaces pictured below but with Christmas coming up I decided I should probably save my money. Definitely purchasing one of these in future though. First I just need to decide between the banana, avocado and watermelon design. They were all too pretty!

After the markets we spent the rest of the afternoon bumming around Southbank. It was such a nice day for it. Although I do miss the chilled atmosphere of Townsville, there's definitely something to be said for city living. If it wasn't for my dogs I would totally consider moving even closer.

It's funny, actually, how I never appreciated Brisbane for what it had to offer when I lived down this way previously. I was always so daunted by the idea of catching public transport in or trying to find a park that nine times out of ten I'd just give up on going in completely. Lucky for me the new guy I've recently started seeing lives right along the river, just a short walk from all the hustle and bustle, including one of my new favourite vegan restaurants (yay!). Visiting him has definitely helped me to get over my fear of driving around the city. More on this new budding romance of mine another day though. ;)

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