Saturday, 20 January 2018

Life Update.



Where do I even begin.. It's been almost 6 months since my last blog post and so much has happened since then.

The last time I sat down to write a post I was living with my flatmate and her toddler. Shortly after writing that post we changed internet providers, and long story short, things kept going wrong and we ended up without the internet for a good few months. Without the internet I pretty much stopped using my computer completely. I had my phone for my daily social media apps, but blogging took a backseat as there was no way I was going to attempt to jot out a blog post on my phone.

During this time things came to an end with the guy I had been seeing, May through July, who I hinted about here on the blog a couple of posts back. This was hard for me at the time as he was the first person I had allowed myself to be in a "relationship" with since leaving my long term partner the previous year. It was an absolute blessing in disguise though as it opened me up to meeting David, pictured above, who I have been dating for the past 5 months now. Basically my flatmate encouraged me to get back on the online dating apps and find myself a "distraction". At this point a distraction was the most I could hope for. I had essentially given up on finding love at that point in time. Lucky for me, the universe had other plans, and David burst into my life and my heart before I even knew what had happened.

There really are no words to describe the connection I have with David. Meeting him was like finding a missing part of me that I wasn't aware was missing. I knew he was the one for me before we even met in person. We'd talk on the phone for hours on end and it was like talking to a best friend I had known my entire life. We'd already decided that if there was no chemistry when we met that we would still be friends because of how much we had in common (same nicknames, same starsign, had the same breed of dogs, studied the same thing out of high school, had both been graphic designers in the past - the list goes on). Fortunately chemistry wasn't an issue and we were instantly drawn to each other. There was no awkwardness or having to get to know each others bodies/minds and ways of doing things, we just meshed together perfectly.

Things moved very quickly with David, and two days after we'd met he asked me to be his girlfriend. There was no messing about with this guy. He knew what he wanted and he didn't hold back. This was such a turn on for me and solidified in my mind that he was just the guy I had been looking for. Things weren't completely smooth sailing though, at least not logistically. It turned out that although David owned his own home in Brisbane, he was actually working and living in Sydney. We decided early on that the most important thing was for us to be together, and so me moving to Sydney quickly became our goal. In order for this to happen David decided he needed to finish off the renovations on his Brisbane home as quickly as possible so that he could rent it out and save some money, making it easier once I'd move down. This meant that David would fly back up to Brisbane almost every weekend, which made the long distance thing a million times easier. Despite this, to make things even easier, we quickly decided that I should move into his reno house so that there was less mucking about when he'd come up to work on the house. This was perfect for me as his house is virtually around the corner from my work, whereas my previous living quarters was a 40 minute drive away. His house also had a huge backyard for my dogs and so much more space and privacy. Things just seemed to be working for us, and they have been continuing to.

Fast forward to today and David and I are stronger than ever. The reno house is pretty much finished, and in the next few weeks I will be moving down to Sydney. All I need to do now is sort out a job transfer and start looking for work. The rest will figure itself out. The universe is on our side. :)

So tell me.. what have you guys been up to? I'm almost certain that nobody reads this blog anymore, but just in case I'd love to know what has been going on in everyone's lives!

Until next time..


 
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Friday, 28 July 2017

Vegan Macaroni Cheese.

Something I had been craving for the longest time since going vegan was a really decent Macaroni Cheese. I had tried a few different recipes when I first went vegan involving potatoes and carrots and things like that but they were never on the same level (and some plain tasted foul!). It wasn't until recently through simply playing around with another favourite recipe of mine that I found the perfect vegan Macaroni Cheese! My housemate is a cook who only gives honest feedback, and she absolutely adored this recipe, so I feel safe sharing it with you guys. Also, whilst my opinion may be biased, I am genuinely in love with this recipe and if cashews weren't so damn expensive I would make this every night. Enjoy!

Ingredients:

250 grams macaroni pasta shells
1 cup cashews
1 tsp onion powder
1 tsp garlic powder
Salt + pepper
1-2 tbsp nutritional yeast (the more the cheesier!)
1/2 cup soymilk (I used vitasoy's soy milky because it is the best!)
Handful of your favourite vegan cheese (not necessary though)
Sundried tomatoes

Method:

1. Cover the cashews with water and soak in the fridge overnight. Alternatively, boil in a saucepan for 15 mins.
2. Pop your macaroni shells on to boil and cook until al dente.
3. Drain cashews and place in blender. Add soy milk, onion powder, garlic powder, nutritional yeast and salt and pepper. Blend.
4. Drain macaroni and put into baking dish. Stir through the sauce, adding your vegan cheese of choice (or not, you don't need to!) and sundried tomatoes as you stir. Sprinkle with pepper.
5. Cook in the oven until the top starts to brown and the cheese starts to melt. You'll need to keep an eye on it because cooking time and temperature depends on the oven and the depth of the baking dish.

Serves 4.

 
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Sunday, 16 July 2017

It's been a year.



Well, just over a year anyway. Just over a year since I made the biggest decision of my life and ended my long term relationship of almost eight years. It feels like a lifetime ago to me now. So much has changed in the past twelve thirteen months. Some positive, some negative, but mostly positive. More on that in another post though.

Now while I'm not normally one to dwell on the past, I do like to learn from it, and if I can share what I have learned in order to help other people then why the hell not? If I can give even just one person in the same position that I was in this time last year some peace of mind that things will get better, then I feel like writing this post is worth it. I've decided to write this post in a Q & A style, answering the questions that I myself was asking shortly after the break up. I know that the answers other people gave helped me, so hopefully my answers will help someone else too.

Q: Will I ever love again?
A: Yes. Of course. It may not feel like it in the first few months after breaking up, but once you make the leap into this sea of other fish that everyone keeps talking about, you will quickly be swept up in the excitement of a fresh start and being seen with a fresh pair of eyes. Even if you don't fall in love again straight away, by putting yourself out there you will meet people who reawaken your soul and help you to see the beauty inside yourself that you had long forgotten about. You will feel so many emotions that you had forgotten even existed. Pretty soon one of these emotions will be love. And it will be magical.

Q: Will finding a new relationship be difficult?
A: Short answer, yes. You will probably date a bunch of different people, likely in quick succession, trying to find the one who is worth your time. After investing eight years of your life into someone who just wasn't as invested as you, you will undoubtedly become very fickle and not want to settle down unless you find someone who is ultimately worth the risk of potentially losing another huge chunk of your life to. This isn't necessarily a bad thing though. You will learn a lot about yourself very quickly. You will also learn a lot about other people and be immersed in a bunch of different, exciting situations that you never would have been in otherwise. Even once you find someone to settle down with though, things will still be difficult. Issues from your past relationship may rise to the surface, causing insecurities and doubts and unfortunately comparison. It is how you choose to react to these issues that will make things difficult or not. I've found that by simply sitting quietly with these issues to reflect and learn from them, you can turn these into a positive.

Q: What is the hardest thing about starting a new relationship from scratch?
A: The hardest thing I've found with starting a new relationship is breaking old habits. Going from living with someone and being in their pocket everyday to only seeing someone 2-3 times a week has been a real challenge for me. I find myself coming across as clingy because, let's face it, when you're falling in love with someone all you want to do is spend time with them, never mind adding the habit of being with someone everyday to the mix. I've learned to embrace the fresh start though, and now I find our time apart to be just as important as our time together, as it gives us the chance to miss each other as well as focus on our individual goals - giving us something to talk about when we are together again. Something else I've found hard is having to wait for things that you were already used to having. Like a relationship with your partners family. Knowing their childhood secrets. Learning their deepest fears and their biggest goals. These are all things you have to look forward to though, so if you think about it like this it can really only be a positive.

Q: What if things don't work out?
A: Then come back to this post. If there's one thing I've learned it's that there are no guarantees in life. There are only lessons to be made, connections to be formed, and feelings to be felt. If it feels good in the moment and benefits your emotional happiness in the present, this all you can really ask for in life. If things change, react accordingly. Do what feels right for you. It's never too late for a second chance.

I wish you guys all the luck in life in love!

 
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